I met her this morning. Her eyes were swollen and reddish cos she cried the whole night. Her dad would not let her marry the guy she loves. She is Brahmin and he is not. Her dad is against this just for the reason that he is not a Brahmin!
The discrimination happens so badly here that people end up fighting and eventually dying claiming their superiority. Just because Brahmins are higher class they degrade every other caste. If there is so much discrimination even so many years after independence, after moving forward so much, after achieving so much, then there is only one conclusion drawn… People are Selfish & Coward. In our society all one is bothered about is how he retains his dignity. To do so, he can go as high as sacrificing his desires, his family’s desires and their little little dreams.
What right has her dad got to kill her dreams like this? Why can’t he just meet the guy once before he draws a conclusion about him based on his community? He worked so hard all these years to see her in a good position, which she is now. And he always wanted her to be independent and manage her life by herself. When he gave all these rights, then why is it that he is not allowing her to unite with him? After the day she told her dad about her desire to marry, there was a roar. After which she decided to give up and marry anyone her parents choose. Then why are they asking her the opinion about the guy they chose? I have heard her mom asking her to stay happy, and not to be glum. Little do they understand where her happiness is actually in?
They are seeing her die. They are seeing her difficulty in sleeping, eating, conversing socially, yet they scold her and force her to be happy. The reason is awesome. They do not want the people around to know about it and lower their prestige. They stand here!!!! Well if they want only that, then why ask her opinion. They want prestige, they want pride, they want all this in her happiness’ cost and when it hurts, then she is not allowed to show that too.
In Indian culture it has happened always that parents choose the groom or bride. Yes, I agree that it is very important to respect their opinion and their single most important thing to see. But cant there be an effort to think about her too… Once?? May be I am being rebellious and am thinking only about her, not bothering about what her parents went through went they heard this.
She is about to start her life. And it is so very important to be excited and attracted to the guy one girl marries. A forced love is what it is. How can you assume that you love someone? How can she forget her love and try to love some one else? For the whole life this weight has to be carried. I pray that the situation changes soon and everything turns out as expected. And never see her in tears again.